If you’ve ever been a victim of abuse by a loved one, you may feel unable to break away from this individual. You may even try to tell yourself that you’re not being abused, or that it’s not even that bad. Regardless, you would do well to read this week's blog on the topic.
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Do you and your partner continually wind up butting heads over issues you know in your heart are really trivial? Do you feel stymied by continuing to have the same argument with your partner over and over again? Well, the answer can probably be found in Terry Real’s new book: Us, which deals with how to recover from relationship conflicts. I review this book in the space below.
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Do you often feel inhibited in social situations, and wonder where this came from? Do you remember having had a deep-seated sense of insecurity about yourself from an early age, but aren’t sure where this came from? Chances are there is some emotional mistreatment in your background, despite whether you feel like you had a normal childhood or not.
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Have you ever watched a movie or TV show that has trauma in it, and wondered if it’s something that only happens to people who were in the military or have experienced sexual assault? The truth is that many other people suffer from trauma, and it most often goes undetected. I’ll explain why in the space below.
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Much ado has been made about how we are a “divided“ country, and how people all over the nation are polarized about politics. You may find yourself anxious or worrying about these issues, but find there seems to be no way to deal with it in a healthy manner. I will try to offer some pointers on how to cope with the stress in this space.
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Do you find some times that you often feel splintered or at odds with yourself? Do you often feel like different people in different situations? If you answered, yes, to either of these two questions, then IFS probably has something to offer you.
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Have you ever wondered whether polyamory might be good for you, particularly in the context of an ongoing relationship? Have you felt that at times being able to focus your love and affection on more than one partner would be beneficial for you? I will try to answer these questions in this week's blog post, so read on.
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Have you tended to compare yourself negatively to others because of a traumatic childhood or other aspects of yourself you view negatively? Do you ever wonder who the ‘normal’ people are in the world you are supposed to be more like? I have some good news for you if you answered ‘yes’ to either of these questions and I also review Gabor Mate’s new book, The Myth of Normal below.
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Are you a millennial and wonder why older folks tend to think so differently than you? Have you felt like you don’t fit in sometimes when you are in a work situation and your boss is somehow expecting you to grind away for long hours or be a climber in the workplace when you don’t necessarily buy into the corporate culture?
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When you hear the term neuroscience, do you find yourself shutting down and suddenly not paying attention? Do you wonder if brain science is something that could possibly help you in any way? Well, I found a book that will help you tune in instead of tune out.
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Do you have ADHD and wonder how you got it? Do you look at your family that you grew up with and wonder was there something that happened that could have contributed to you developing attention deficit issues? I will attempt to answer both these questions in this week's blog post, so read on.
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Do you often find yourself caught up in a tangle of anxiety-producing thoughts that you can’t seem to break out of? Would you like a way to quell the anxiety and/or troublesome thoughts that beguile you much of the time? If the answer to any of these questions is yes, then I urge you to read on to find out more about how to break out of this vicious cycle through reparenting yourself.
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If you wonder why you struggle to feel grateful, you have a lot of company. Many people strive to feel grateful, but still wind up not experiencing this all-too-elusive emotion or feeling. If you want to learn more about how to have this feeling, read this week’s thoughts on the subject.
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Do you find yourself triggered to dive back into addictive behaviors, almost without a thought? Do you feel like you’re constantly slipping back into old behaviors despite your best intentions? Then read on, because this week's post is for you.
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Do you feel like you put a lot of time and effort into giving to your partner, but you get little to nothing in return? Do you feel like your partner doesn’t take enough interest in you in consideration of how much you put forth? Do you feel like you can predict how your partner will act or react to certain situations, and they invariably do these things? If you answered yes to most or all of these questions, you may be suffering from relationship burnout.
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Do you often feel like no one cares about you, or that others have social connections that you lack? Do you often feel like no one understands you or ‘gets you,’ and tend to feel the ache of not having others in your life? If you do, read on because this week’s post is just for you!
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Are the holidays a time you usually dread and look forward to ending as soon as possible? Do your memories of holidays in the past consist of ones that involve disappointment and heartache? Do you often feel a letdown when the holidays are over as well? If you answered yes to most or all of these questions, then do read on because this week’s post is for you!
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Do you enter the holiday season with a sense of dread? Do you wonder what all the hubbub is about with Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Years? Do you feel like you missed the boat when everyone else seems to be having such a good time and you feel like you’re on the outside looking in? That happens to be what most people go through, but it doesn’t mean you can’t get the most out of the holidays.
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Do you find yourself googling random symptoms you’re feeling in the hope of finding out what it is? Do you wind up getting anxious or freaked out because of what you find? If you do, then you also need to read why this is looking for answers in exactly the wrong place and how you can end up with an anxiety disorder if you keep doing it.
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Do you tend to use substance(s) while you are searching for or having sex? Do you find you need increasing amounts of a substance to get the same ‘bang’ from your sexual experiences? Do you feel remorse for the lengths you’ve gone to get not only a substance, but also for trying to get the sex to go with it? Read on to find out about the cycle you may be caught in, and for how to break it.
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