Shared Values and Their Impact on Long-Term Relationship Success

March 24, 2025 Scott Kampschaefer

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Have you ever wondered about whether your partner puts importance on the same things that you do? Do you ever feel like you and your relationship partner are pulling in opposite directions in the relationship? Do you feel like your attraction to your partner is at odds with the reasons that you’re in the relationship in the first place? If you answered yes to one of these questions, then I urge you to read on, as this blog post is for you!

The Problem with People Pleasing and How Trauma Causes It

March 12, 2025 Scott Kampschaefer

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Do you find yourself sometimes saying “yes“ when you actually mean no? Do you feel like you somehow owe it to others to give in to their demands? Do you have trouble just standing up for yourself when others seem to be angry or disappointed in you? If you answered yes to one more of these questions, then you probably have a problem with people pleasing, so please read on.

The Difference Between Healthy Love and Codependency

February 26, 2025 Scott Kampschaefer

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Do you sometimes find yourself or your partner getting too much in each other’s business? Do you tend to feel an intense longing or pain when your relationship partner is gone for any significant period of time? Do you find it easier to worry about your partner than yourself? If you answered yes to one or more of these questions, then you may have a problem with codependency and would do well to continue to read on.

How Trauma Leads to Emotional Repression and How Therapy Can Help You Express Yourself

February 12, 2025 Scott Kampschaefer

Do you ever wonder why you tend to feel numb much or most of the time? Do you ever think that you somehow “should“ be feeling things more than you do? Do you find yourself unable to experience the joy or happiness that others seem to feel so readily? If you answered, yes to one or more of these questions, then this blog post may very well be for you!

How Emotional Intelligence Can Help in Overcoming Addiction

January 27, 2025 Scott Kampschaefer

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Do you ever wonder why you seem so drawn to sex and can’t seem to feel much else other than lust? Do you feel emotionally numb a good deal of the time also? Does anger seem like a familiar go to feeling as well? If you answered yes to at least two of these questions, then you would do well to read the rest of my blog for this week.

Why Date Nights are Essential for Stronger Relationships

January 17, 2025 Scott Kampschaefer

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Do you and your partner struggle to find time to spend with just each other? Do you feel like your relationship has gotten stale and you don’t spend much time doing anything fun with your partner? Do the demands of family life keep getting in the way of time connecting with your partner? If you answered yes to any of these questions, then I urge you to read on to get help in having date nights regularly.

Recognizing Trauma Responses in Every Day Life

December 30, 2024 Scott Kampschaefer

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Do you sometimes find yourself having a reaction to a situation that seems out of proportion with the actual event? Do you sometimes find yourself overwhelmed with shame or self-loathing at times as well? Do you sometimes get a sense of dread that seems to come out of nowhere before having a certain experience? If you answered yes to one or more of these questions, then you may be struggling with trauma responses and I encourage you to continue reading!

Why Some Couples Let Small Issues Become Big Problems

December 16, 2024 Scott Kampschaefer

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Are you someone who hates conflict in your relationship? Do you find yourself much of the time doing anything to avoid having to confront your partner about a problem? Do you find yourself struggling with resentment in your relationship? If you answered yes to two or more of the questions, then please read on because this week’s blog post is for you!

How to Cope with Addiction Triggers

December 4, 2024 Scott Kampschaefer

Do you intend to be free from addictive sexual behavior, but struggle every time that you are triggered? Do you find yourself feeling like a failure every time you give into an addictive behavior, and wonder if you or else will ever fully recover? If you answered yes to either of these two questions, then this week's blog post is for you!

How Relationship Therapy Can Help You While Single and Searching

November 18, 2024 Scott Kampschaefer

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Do you wonder why you keep picking partners that are bad for you? Do you wonder why you are still single despite family and friends telling you how wonderful you are? Do you struggle to communicate in your primary relationship in order to develop emotional intimacy? If so, then this week’s blog post is for you!

How to Have a 'No Shame November'

November 4, 2024 Scott Kampschaefer

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Are you someone who has experienced more than your fair share of shame in your life? Do you want to come out from underneath the cloud of this unpleasant emotion as soon as possible? If you answered yes to either of these questions, then this week’s offering is for you!

The Problem with Fantasy Sex, and What To Do About It

October 21, 2024 Scott Kampschaefer

Are you someone who feels like you are addicted to fantasy sex and struggle to find partners that match your fantasies? Do your sexual fantasies interfere with your real relationships? If you answered yes to either of these two questions, then this week's offering is for you.

What is Trauma-Informed Care?

October 8, 2024 Scott Kampschaefer

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Have you heard the term ‘trauma-informed care,’ and wondered just what this involves? Do you have trauma and wonder if those who provide health or educational care about whether they are attentive to what’s going on with you? If so, then this blog post is a good one to read.

How to Deal with Differences in Sex Drive With a Partner

September 27, 2024 Scott Kampschaefer

Do you want to stop acting out sexually, but wonder how you can do it when your partner doesn’t want sex as much as you do? Do you sometimes want to blame your problems with sex addiction on your partner because they don’t want to have sex as much as you do? If you answered yes to either one of these questions, then, this blog post is for you.

How to Deal with Financial Inequality in Your Relationship

September 10, 2024 Scott Kampschaefer

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Do you sometimes feel like you're “less than“ because you don’t earn as much as your partner? Do you sometimes feel somewhat resentful that you have to carry the financial load for your family because your partner doesn’t earn nearly as much as you? In either case, you could be struggling with some of the emotional effects of financial inequality in your relationship, so please read on.

3 Ways to Cope with Political Polarization in an Election Year

September 5, 2024 Scott Kampschaefer

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Do you feel anxious about the election season, and all the possible tumultuousness that goes with it? Do you have fear about being scrutinized by one side or another because of your political inclinations? Well welcome to the crowd, and this week's blog is for you.

Trauma Dumping and 4 Ways to Cope With It

August 7, 2024 Scott Kampschaefer

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Do you ever notice getting strange or unusual reactions from your friends or family when you tell them about difficult experiences you’ve had? Do you find that you get triggered when listening to friends or family talk about their difficult experiences and not know how to handle it? If you answered yes to either of these two questions, then you may be engaging in trauma dumping or may be a victim of it without knowing it - - and please read on.

4 Signs You Are in a Manipulative Relationship

July 22, 2024 Scott Kampschaefer

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Do you have a partner who is constantly threatening to break up with you or are you the one constantly threatening to break up? Do you have a hard time asserting your opinions in the relationship, or are you always trying to get your way? If you answered ‘yes' to one or more of these questions, you may very well be in a manipulative relationship, and it would help to know how to cope with the situation. I urge you to read on in that case.

Addiction and the Shadow

July 9, 2024 Scott Kampschaefer

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Do you ever wonder why you continue to engage in the same self-destructive behavior despite your best intention? Do you often notice a big discrepancy between what you value in life, and then what you wind up doing by undercutting that? Do you often feel mystified by the things you do in contrast to who you know yourself to be? if you answered yes to one or more of these questions, then you are probably dealing with what is commonly known as the shadow. I will attempt to shine some light on the subject in this week's offering.

How Vicarious Trauma Can Affect You

June 24, 2024 Scott Kampschaefer

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Do you ever wonder why you might be feeling some degree of mental distress, anxiety, and or depression because of your relationship to a partner or friend? Do you also experience some degree of social awkwardness, generalized stress, or social isolation as a result of your interactions with this or other persons in your social sphere? If so, you may be suffering from something known as vicarious trauma.