How to Deal with Financial Inequality in Your Relationship

September 10, 2024 Scott Kampschaefer

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Do you sometimes feel like you're “less than“ because you don’t earn as much as your partner? Do you sometimes feel somewhat resentful that you have to carry the financial load for your family because your partner doesn’t earn nearly as much as you? In either case, you could be struggling with some of the emotional effects of financial inequality in your relationship, so please read on.

4 Signs You Are in a Manipulative Relationship

July 22, 2024 Scott Kampschaefer

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Do you have a partner who is constantly threatening to break up with you or are you the one constantly threatening to break up? Do you have a hard time asserting your opinions in the relationship, or are you always trying to get your way? If you answered ‘yes' to one or more of these questions, you may very well be in a manipulative relationship, and it would help to know how to cope with the situation. I urge you to read on in that case.

What Happens If You Experience a Break Up During Couples Therapy?

June 10, 2024 Scott Kampschaefer

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Have you ever started couples therapy and then wound up having a break up while you’re going through it? If so, do you wonder why in the world that would happen considering you’re finally at a point of getting help? I’ll try to answer these questions in this week's blog post .

Is There a Genetic Component to Infidelity?

May 1, 2024 Scott Kampschaefer

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Have you found yourself engaging in a pattern of cheating on your spouse or partner, much like one of your parents did before you? Do you wonder if you have the “infidelity gene?” Do you want to blame your behavior on your parents' bad example? If you answered ‘yes’ to one or more of these questions then I urge you to read on.

3 Ways Self Compassion Can Improve Your Relationship

March 19, 2024 Scott Kampschaefer

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Do you find yourself talking critically to yourself about your relationship situation? Do you often find yourself stealing the thunder from your partner when they criticize you and talking even more negatively about yourself when that happens? If you answered yes to either of these questions, then self compassion could definitely help improve your relationship situation.

5 Keys to Determining Incompatibility With Your Partner

January 23, 2024 Scott Kampschaefer

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Do you wonder if you’ve met the right person or not? Do you even know how to tell if who you’re with is right for you? Do you find you and your partner constantly getting into headbutting sessions over some fundamental issues? You may have a problem with basic compatibility, so read on.

The Corrosiveness of Contempt in Relationships

November 7, 2023 Scott Kampschaefer

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Have you ever found yourself feeling like you hate your relationship partner? Have you found yourself ever acting in ways that seem to be totally counter to the way you want to show up in your relationship? If you do, then I encourage you to continue to read because this blog post May be very helpful for you.

How the Barbie Movie Can Be Good for Your Relationship

September 12, 2023 Scott Kampschaefer

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If you enjoyed watching the Barbie movie, and find it causes you to question your primary relationship, you’re not alone. Did you watch it and think that you were looking at some kind of upside down world? If you did, then you’re not alone either, but this movie does have positive implications for our partnered relationships going forward.

How Active Listening Can Improve Your Relationship

August 14, 2023 Scott Kampschaefer

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Do you often find yourself trying to give your relationship partner direct answers to questions, or seeking to ‘fix’ a problem that is presented for apparent resolution? If you do, you probably struggle with your listening skills, and active listening could be the best way to solve some of your relationship problems.

Relationship Conflict and the New Relational Life Therapy

July 17, 2023 Scott Kampschaefer

Do you and your partner continually wind up butting heads over issues you know in your heart are really trivial? Do you feel stymied by continuing to have the same argument with your partner over and over again? Well, the answer can probably be found in Terry Real’s new book: Us, which deals with how to recover from relationship conflicts. I review this book in the space below.

Is Polyamory Right for You and Your Relationship?

May 4, 2023 Scott Kampschaefer

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Have you ever wondered whether polyamory might be good for you, particularly in the context of an ongoing relationship? Have you felt that at times being able to focus your love and affection on more than one partner would be beneficial for you? I will try to answer these questions in this week's blog post, so read on.

6 Signs of Relationship Burnout

January 17, 2023 Scott Kampschaefer

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Do you feel like you put a lot of time and effort into giving to your partner, but you get little to nothing in return? Do you feel like your partner doesn’t take enough interest in you in consideration of how much you put forth? Do you feel like you can predict how your partner will act or react to certain situations, and they invariably do these things? If you answered yes to most or all of these questions, you may be suffering from relationship burnout.

Learn Your Partner's Love Language for Better Connection

October 18, 2022 Scott Kampschaefer

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Do you get things for your partner and wonder why they don’t respond more positively to your gifts? Do you find yourself not responding as positively as you or your partner would like to the favors they do for you or the gifts they get you? It may have a lot to do with not being aware of your partner’s love language, or vice versa, and finding out about it could make a big difference in your relationship.

What Do People Get Wrong About Compatibility?

September 19, 2022 Scott Kampschaefer

Have you ever heard someone say the reason they broke up with their relationship partner was because they ‘weren’t compatible?’ Have you ever wondered about this issue being at the heart of your relationship woes? If you have, then I urge you to read on because it will hopefully answer some of your questions.

Do's and Don'ts If Your Partner Has BPD

June 15, 2022 Scott Kampschaefer

Do you feel like you are always trying to figure out what set off your partner in some interaction you had with them and that you are always walking on eggshells with them? Do you yourself feel depressed because of the endless cycle of emotional volatility you keep getting caught up in with them? Please read on to find out what you need to do and avoid doing to cope if you answered yes to both of these questions.

4 Reasons Why Love Bombing is a Bust

December 21, 2021 Scott Kampschaefer

Are you someone who has ever been love-bombed only to later be left in the lurch by someone you thought loved you? Are you someone who’s ever love-bombed someone else and later realized you didn’t really mean what you said and did? In either case you could be a victim of love-bombing and the likely underlying mental health diagnoses that goes with it.

Betrayal Trauma and How It Affects Mental Health

November 1, 2021 Scott Kampschaefer

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About the author: Scott Kampschaefer, LCSW is a private practice therapist in Frederick, Maryland. He has an extensive background in working with depression, anxiety, and bipolar disorder at a clinic for older adults with these disorders in Austin. He now works with adults and adolescents 14 and up in private practice. His most recent book is titled The 5 Pillars of Addiction Recovery and is available for purchase on Amazon and in paperback on this website.

What's Sex Got to do With It?

June 6, 2019 Scott Kampschaefer

Remember this Tina Turner song? Too many people with relationship problems are too prone to blaming these on sex, but problems with sex are usually just a symptom of general relationship problems that are usually very treatable.

How Couples Struggle With the Issue of Porn Use

March 25, 2019 Scott Kampschaefer

Do you and your partner not see eye to eye with the issue of porn use? Does your spouse give you a hard time about looking at porn, or even threaten to kick you out of the house because of looking at it? Maybe you’re a spouse who’s about to file for divorce over this issue. In either case, you can benefit from reading more.

Can You're Marriage Survive an Affair?

October 28, 2017 Scott Kampschaefer

Are you someone who has experienced an affair in your marriage? Do you wonder how long it will take to trudge the long road back from this or a similar breach in trust...if it’s even possible? If you are one of the partners involved in such an experience know that it is possible to come back from this.